Here’s my thought….
He’s 5. Its December, he’s 5 and he’s in Kindergarten.
ALL DAY Kindergarten, I suspect?
The demands that are placed on our 5 year old children are astonishing!
They’re expected to have hands folded, no talking, no acting out. They are expected to be able to handle their emotions and get along with everyone all the time. They’re expected to learn a tremendous amount….to even be reading at level D by the time June comes.
Some can “do it all” and some just need more time to “get it”,
He tells this to Jaggers and Wemmick, unable to keep it to himself. Jaggers tells him the missing bit of the story (only assuming, that it could have been like that): Molly gave the child to him, to be safe in case of her conviction. Abel, believing it dead, did not dare make a stir about it. At the same time, Miss Havisham was looking for a girl to bring up and save from a misery like her own and Jaggers gave Estella to her. She was two or three at the time. Miss Havisham did not know where she came from and named her Estella. Jaggers advises Pip to be quiet about it. For whose sake would he tell it? The father had to keep in hiding, the mother had been about to kill the child and the daughter had escaped disgrace and would be dragged back into it by the revelation. Pip keeps quiet, and only tells Magwitch, on his deathbed, that his child lives. Pip tells him that she is a beautiful young lady and that he was in love with her.
How serious an offense is it that Miss Havisham blights Estella's ability to love? (Dostoevsky said that hell is the loss of the ability to love.) Is her treatment of Pip and Estella criminal? Dorothy Van Ghent believes "Miss Havisham is guilty of aggression against life in using the two children, Pip and Estella, as inanimate instruments of revenge for her broken heart, and she has been changed retributively into a fungus." Van Ghent brings up an interesting idea with her reference to Miss Havisham's becoming a fungus (think of the mice eating the cake and her heart); has using others had a negative effect on Miss Havisham? (Van Ghent assigns another significance to this reciprocal change; she suggests it reveals the characteristic lack of complex inner life of Dickens's characters; for example, a great deal of Miss Havisham's inner life is transposed to the spiders and beetles on her hearth.)